he has been ecspecially interested in girls toys and playing with girls over boys since he was about 3. I have taken him to counseling and they say he is ok, but i am afraid he will be teased in school . He is very feminine . what is your opinion. just curious?
I’m a male. From my opinion show him how fun boy toys are. Take a fire truck and make it look so fun that he’ll never want to put it down. Play with Hot Wheels and Action Figures like G.I. Joe with him and show your son that boys toys can be fun too. Also show him that boys also have something to agree with. You can bring one of his male cousin over your house to talk to him to show fun it is to talk about boy stuff and how they’ll have something to agree on. Good Luck!
*Dre*
When we were younger, my sisters and i used to dress our little brother up in dresses, and put little tiny pony tails in his hair. We made him play barbies with us, and dress up, and all that other ‘girly’ stuff. My mother allowed it, with a simple reason: Boys who play with so called ‘girl toys’ and do girly things are learning how to foster their nurturing side. If you notice, when he plays with cars and trucks and such, he’s rough. Yet, when he plays with dolls and stuff of that sort, he’s gentle. This is a big help for in the future when he is older and becomes a father. My brother is now 17 and the gentlest man i have ever seen with my kids. He was always willing to hold my kids when they were babies, and even sang to them, cuddled with them, rocked, dressed, diapered, all that. My kids are now 5 and 17 months. They both have an incredible bond with their uncle. Believe me, my brother is 100% boy. He drives his ATV, plays football, lacrosse, wrestles, plays video games and such. There is nothing that screams feminine about him. He is just a well adjusted young man who knows when to be rough, and when not to be.
You will be better off letting your son play with what he likes, with no restrictions. My fiances nephew, is a different story. Him and my daughter are the same age and i used to babysit him. When he would come over, there was nothing but girl toys. His father used to flip out and demand him not play with my daughters Dora dollhouse and barbies. He is 5 now, and retaliates every time he comes over to play with my daughters toys. His father hates it, and yells at him. He cries over everything and is always violent and rough, even with his baby brother.
In my opinion, had his father had let him play with ‘girl’ toys, he wouldnt be so rough with the baby.
Let your son play with what he wants. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If the counselors arent worried, then you shouldnt be either.
Good luck!
Let him be him.
My neighbor has the same exact boy. He plays with my sister and comes to see us a lot. I only see him playing with her and he loves her barbies and dolls. It’s kind of cute actually. He’s almost 8 or 9 a think and he is such a feminine like boy. If he is teased, he should be comfortable getting to know his girl friends better. Counseling is also what my neighbor’s son took.
He’s a kid, he might grow out of it and he might just want to be that way. He seems like a little boy I would love.
You can’t change his nature, only scar him and frustrate him. Go back to the counselor to find out how to help him accept who is and how to deal with the outside world’s attitude toward him, whatever it may be (you might be surprised that no one teases him). Also, the counselor may help prepare you for the possibililty that the he’s not just effeminate but transgendered (Google it).
this is just your opinion of him. it may well be that your son is very well adjusted. its time for you to adjust to your child. you can’t pick your child’s personality.
it may also be that he isn’t as feminine as you percieve him to be.
I would let him play with what and who he likes but I would encourage any guy friends he has but dont make him feel bad. Is his dad around? If so, encourage guy time, playing ball, etc..
other than that just let him be who he is
That’s normal in a way! I’ve heard of that before. It’s 100% normal. There is nothing wrong with that in my opinion!! My nephew seems to be that way too. Good Luck
boys can be very rough-if he just plays with girls its ok if he wears nail varnish and other makeup and womens clothes etc then he will be skitted
If he’s comfortable with it, then leave him alone. His counselor says there is nothing wrong with him. You need to accept him the way he is.
I think YOU are homophobic and are afraid that your son’s playing with girls toys is going to embarass YOU.
It’s just his personality. it’s okay
it isn’t meant to be mean but maybe he is gay. There is nothing wrong with that though.
At ten, I didn’t use boy toys OR girl toys.
theres nothing wrong with that at all….just let him be….if you put restraints on him he’ll be more likely to act out later in life…
Let him,should respect him no matter what.
He is fine.
Nothing wrong with it. Let him be himself.
Just let him be
sorry but i think he wants to be a girl or he s gay but hes 3